As a martial arts school owner for 29 years I understand where you are coming from. As instructors we have ups and downs feeling valued, feeling used, sometimes frustrated and other times pleased with the progress of our students. In the end we touch people in ways we never even realize. For me it can be as small as complimenting a student on a technique that gives them the confidence to forge ahead. Like the note you received from the woman wanting to feel connected to her loved one, that is worth all the time and energy as instructors we put into our art, at least it is for me. The occasional thank you card I receive from a parent telling me what a huge positive influence I’ve had on their child gives me the desire to just keep on doing the art! Thank you for your thoughts.